Killer Statement

There is a communications term negative emotional Intelligence in the so-called killer statement. What is the killer statement? Killer statement that all forms of statement is that we remove it we, knowingly or not, but the wound and can damage the mental and spirit of others. The types of killer this statement, without realizing we hear every day, or perhaps without realizing we remove it with a joke, to motivate, but it is destructive. The destroyer of the soul-expressions that result in feelings of negative self on someone that we are often called killer statement. Interestingly, the history of the comic also had a bad record as a result of the killer statement was received by the two children named Jerry Siegel and Joe Shuster. The story like this ... In the depression that the United States in 1933, Jeery Siegel have any idea to create a heroic figure of children who have extraordinary ability. Power stronger than iron, and they can fly from another planet. So, along with friends of Joe Shuster is clever painting, made for the first time human image is of steel. But the image of comic super man was not so interesting. Critique and criticism received. For six consecutive years their comic was rejected there. Until finally, the peak mental disintegration Siegel and Shuster happens when they have heard the editor of Detective Comics that need comic Strips. So they try to sell them. However, when opening-open and view their comics illustration, the editors also laughed and said, "Nobody believe the idea that comics like this. Twopenny image and behavior may not be sold." But, as already too frustrated with the refusal of the sentence and that, Shuster and Siegel eventually agreed to sell all the comics and the copyright to Detective Comics only U.S. $ 130. Please note that only the price of U.S. $ 130! But, that is the biggest mistake Siegel and Shuster to listen too due to the killer statement received. Because, some time after their comic purchased, their comic character turns into worship. You can certainly guess. That is the character Superman, Krypton man with the ability to fly, super vision and physical strength of the extraordinary. Superman comics become so in demand, and aired, a prominent character idol children. While Siegel and Shuster, creator of the first, can only nibble fingers. Figures Superman became popular get profits and billions of U.S. dollars. But leaders creator only get U.S. $ 130, even living in poverty and debt. Fortunately, in 1975 after pressure from the insistently that the public does not humane Detective Comics with the creator of Superman living in poor, Detective Comics finally agreed to provide financial security. But, if we look back, that is the price of a killer statement that has destroyed the careers and lives two kid named Siegel and Shuster .. This story seems to make us aware of the danger from the killer statement in our interpersonal relationships. Indeed, sometimes this killer's not spoken with the intention of the negative, but its impact, seriously damage! However, it can also killer this statement spoken with the intent to impose a special person who heard it bounce. Tip important For that, there are some important tips for us. First, be careful with the killer statement that we may well say to our children, our lives couples, colleagues and subordinate kita.Killer this statement indicates that the sentence is spoken without consideration, can kill the potential, ability and good character someone. Therefore, if you're stress, are not in the mood to talk conditions, are not satisfied with the result, or does not feel like what you see, try to avoid using the expression suggestive or stigmatize. Second, as our own people and will receive regular statements killer of people around us, we better prepare anti-virus for our own. Anti virus contains sentences that we say on ourselves, even if other people have said the killer statement to us. Emotional Intelligence in the workshop, one of the training provided is to use the positive reinforcement that quickly neutralize even if other people have said bad things to you. Interestingly, also in one of the singing contest, there is a famous singer who is old, but was invited to be guest judges. At that time there is a vocalist that get bad ratings and eventually go away. Time before the countdown, the old singer is to give advice, "Do not care about results of this assessment for you. The most important is yourself continuously strengthen. And I did not sweep up a contest, yet with persistence, I can become a singer. Sure keep yourself and practice can be successful ". Surely a word of that extraordinary. You must say the same thing to yourself, when you are given a negative word or statement killer. Remember, do not to your ability and potential was damaged by the words of the sentence people who are not responsible. They actually have a problem with them. Do not let them destroy you. Do not let them steal your dream.